If you want to experience drama at its best, then adopt several pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had this kind of experience with my daughter and several her friends.
As soon as they got into the automobile, I started to hear things such as:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He explained he liked me and it was the best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the senior school kids."
"I will never, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the automobile ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The adult drama queen says things such as:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they need but me."
"I'm such a failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to run? That was so humiliating."
Over time of being a lady and experiencing womanhood, I attended to realize that we all have a crisis queen that lives within us. It only becomes a problem when she is running the show. Dramacool
So, here are a few methods for living at peace with your inner drama diva:
1. Consider the drama, instead of from the drama
When you discover yourself being embroiled into a dramatic moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe how the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Could you observe drama adds a complexity to the problem?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. Rather than saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a crisis queen says, "I'm such a failure. I will never, ever learn math." Or, instead of saying "I ate a case of Oreos," she'll say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the facts of the problem, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic loves to sensationalize things, but why not challenge her a little with proof. For example, when she claims that you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done everything you are trying to do or find explanations why you may be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just wants to be heard and seen. Give poor people thing 5 or 10 minutes per day to do her thing. I like to schedule in drama time when I will complain, exaggerate, cry, or merely step out of my beautiful life for some moments to get completely trapped in drama, but then I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the flicks
All of us crave a little excitement within our lives. The problem occurs once we use our lives since the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that element of you who craves a huge production, try taking her to see an excellent show or read an excellent, trashy novel. You are able to leave feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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